"The Eskimo has fifty-two names for snow because it is important to them; there ought to be as many for love."
-Margaret Atwood
-Margaret Atwood
10 Reasons
- It works. Ask our members.
Sally says:"RelationshipMemory is the best thing to happen to my husband and me in a long time. We've been so busy with work lately that we're rarely in sync. With Flirts and Messages and Moods we can send each other, we feel a lot closer, even on days when the only thing we have time for is another browser window. Also, on those rare occasions where we have time to spend with each other, we can schedule Dates and reminders so we don't overbook."
Bob says:"I never know what's on my girfriend's mind. She's a very shy person to begin with and when she's really upset or wants something, she never wants to tell me straight out. I don't know what it is, maybe just writing it or not having to say it to my face, but she writes a lot of what she thinks and feels and wants on this site. I'm discovering that there's way more to her than I ever realized. I participate a little, but I'm more of a face-to- person. The great thing about this is that once she writes it down, not only will I remember it, she's also more open to talking about it, so I don't spend half my time wandering around in the dark." - Many studies have shown that learning and trying new things makes two people closer. If you don't want to go it alone, you can find other couples here willing to take the plunge with you. Plus, RelationshipMemory itself is new...it couldn't hurt?
- Absence makes the heart grow fonder...but not too much absence. The reinforcement of thinking about and talking to your partner reduces stress, strengthens your bond, and gives you a warm feeling. It's not your imagination, it actually releases a chemical into your body that does these things.1
- Psychological studies show that positive humor is good for your relationship. In the Between Us section, you can share your private jokes and nicknames for each other and see them whenever you need a little humor in your life.2
- Learn things you never knew you had in common, share things you're too embarrassed to say face-to-face. The things you don't know today can open some very interesting doors tomorrow.
- Couples that play together stay together. Explore your interests, do fun stuff with other couples, and play site games.
- Relationship experts always talk about how communication is the bedrock of a stable relationship. We have more ways to communicate, flirt, and share than you can shake a stick at. Plus, you can learn how to have a better relationship from the best source possible, your partner.
- Remember why you fell in love and everything you've been through together, even on days you can barely look at each other. Looking at photos of the person you love and your memories together can make you happier than sex.3
- Keep it sexy with Flirts and Foreplay. Nothing keeps love alive like longing, especially the burning, devilish, can't-wait-to-get-home-and-rip-off-all-your-clothes-with-my-teeth-kind...
- Learn how to have a stable, loving relationship that will last forever with L♥ve MEdia Articles and Videos, plus the support of the Relationship Memory community.
Relationship Memory Could Strengthen, Deepen, or Improve Your Relationship
Footnotes
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Gonzaga GC. et al. (2006). Romantic love and sexual desire in close relationships. Emotion, 6(2),163-179.
Levels of oxytocin were elevated in subjects who remembered a positive emotional experience regarding love or infatuation, in addition to demonstrating displays of affiliation, both of which are posited as part of bonding in human relationships. Oxytocin has been linked to pair-bonding in multiple studies as well as to reductions in anxiety.
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Butzer B, Kuiper NA,. (2008, May). Humor use in romantic relationships: the effects of relationship satisfaction and pleasant versus
conflict situations. The Journal of Psychology, 142(3),245-260.
The use of positive humor was correlated to higher levels of relationship satisfaction. The use of negative humor was also inversely correlated -
Aron A. et al. (2005). Reward, motivation and emotion systems associated with early-stage intense romantic love. Journal of
Neurophysiology, 94, 327-337.
Viewing a picture of someone whom a subject felt intense romantic love for showed on fMRI studies increased activity in dopamine-rich sections of the brain thought to be part of the human mental reward system. The increased activity likely signifies an increase in dopamine. Dopamine is a complex nuerotransmitter which, among its many other functions, is key to motivation and pleasure. Dopamine is increased in relation to stimuli such as sex, food, and even drugs like cocaine, all of which humans generally derive pleasure from.
